Saturday, July 9, 2011

Adoption and Breastfeeding

Kal at 18 weeks old

I am totally pro-breastfeeding. Breast is best... I definitely think that. But I understand that not everyone's situation is the same and not everyone chooses to breastfeed or can breastfeed. I think a lot of women give each other crap about their breastfeeding decisions (whether or not to breastfeed and how long to do it, etc.)... and I really wish we could just unite as women and support each other rather than tear each other down when it comes to bearing and raising children. Women can be harsh and hate on each other like nobody's business!

But I digress!

I didn't put much thought into breastfeeding after I transitioned my brain over from trying to conceive to adoption. I just thought that it was obvious that Kal would be a formula baby and I was about 90% okay with that (and that was good enough for me). After the fact, I've learned so much about stimulating milk production in the adoptive mother and about breast milk donors (including the birth mother donating her milk to the adoptive mother)... that I kind of wished I had done more research as soon as we knew we were going to adopt. Maybe we could have figured out a plan to make sure he could've been exclusively fed breast milk for at least the first few months.

Hmmm...

We have been lucky enough to have some breast milk donated to us from a friend that we've been using back and forth with formula. He's been taking it pretty well and doesn't appear to get an upset stomach or anything from switching back and forth. That supply is really limited, though. So it'll run out soon (I'm thinking we've got about a month left) and we'll be back to exclusively formula feeding.

I guess I just wonder what I would do with a second adoption...? I'm not sure I crave that "connection" that actually breastfeeding would provide, so I don't know if I'd go the route of taking hormones and stimulating my own production. It might cause me a lot of stress, actually. Messing with my hormones always puts me on a track to crazytown... fertility meds were enough! Plus I work, so pumping would be a serious nightmare. I think if the birth mother lived close and offered to donate, I sure wouldn't say no.

Just interesting to think about.

Side note: Both Zay and my brother think it's friggin' gross that Kal drinks donated breast milk and they refused to help make bottles at first. Ha ha. My brother comes in, opens the freezer and says, "What is this - ice cream?" Lol. Noooooo, not ice cream! But I don't think it's a big deal at all... Is it really that taboo to share breast milk in today's world?

They also really do make ice cream out of breast milk. Check it out.





6 comments:

  1. not weird at all! I too was surprised when I first heard that mother's who've adopted could breastfeed. Way to go to you and your friend for trying him on the mama milk! You're awesome!

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    1. Nah, I'm not awesome! Lol. It was just a random lucky thing that we got that breast milk donated to us. I'm glad he took to it so well and I am very happy about how it worked out. :)

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  2. That's great you've had a friend that's been nice enough to share her milk with your baby. My sister in law is trying to adopt and if she gets a baby soon I would love to help her that way. I don't think it should be taboo at all its the natural thing for babies to eat. What do people think cows milk is? :)

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    1. That would be such an amazing thing to do for your sister-in-law if you had the chance! Most people wouldn't think to ask for something like that, or would be too embarrassed or feel like they were imposing. So, offer it if you can!

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  3. You are awesome! Gosh I'm on a rampage through your blog right now reading everything I've missed! I'm tearing up and so happy for you!

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    1. Awww, thanks Jenn! I wish I had documented more chronologically. I'll do better next time! Ha ha.

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